There are a number of practices, even common practices, that are breaches of etiquette for wedding invitations. In this article, I will discuss those mistakes as well as practical alternatives for communicating information that you might want all of your guests to know, but that it is inappropriate to put with a wedding invitation.
Don't Mention Gifts: Invitations to an event should never mention gifts, as the purpose of an invitation is to invite people to an event. As a result, mentioning gifts instrumentalizes what should be a polite communication of a desire for the other person's presence (events whose purpose is gifts, such as a wedding shower, are an exception to this rule). Therefore, you should never provide registry information or even the phrase "no gifts" on your invitation. Instead, inform your parents or anyone else who is your family "maven" (source of information - for us, it's my grandmother). When people ask (and they will ask), you or your maven can politely let people know.
Don't Disinvite: By this, I am referring to the common practice of saying, "no children," on the wedding invitation, but this is not the only case. If you have a religious service that only allows member of that faith to attend, don't say that on your reception information. Instead, this information should be communicated positively by mentioning who exactly is invited in a household by name. People not invited to the wedding but invited to the reception should receive a reception invitation that doesn't mention the service.
Don't Mention Food (unless you have to): Don't provide details of the kind of food and drinks that you will be providing to your guests. Details of food and drink confuse the purpose of the event, which is to celebrate your wedding. Such details are appropriate to inviting someone to a dinner party, but invitations need to set the tone for what is important to the event. The exception to this is if the caterers need to know the preferences of the guests in advance. In this case, mention it on your reply card, but not the invitation.
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